Talking to your children about sex

I just read a recent article, that reports that parent’s views of sexuality does affect their children’s views. The big finding in the article, which hits home for me being the father of two daughters and another on the way, that the better relationship a father has with his daughters, the more likely they are to post-pone having sex.

Read the article for yourself, the link is provided above. I also say two staggering statistics that I think are worth sharing as well.

1. Taken from the HomeWord parent newsletter:

46.8% of Teens Have Had Sexual Intercourse. Every other year, the National Youth Risk Behavior Survey, is conducted by the U.S. Center for Disease Control. The survey is conducted every two years during the spring semester and provides data representative of 9th through 12th grade students in public and private schools throughout the United States. The 2005 results of the YRBS reveal that there was no statistically meaningful change in the percentage of teens who have engaged in sexual intercourse since the 2003 survey. (In the past ten years, the percentage rate has fallen from 53.1% to its current level.) 62.8% of sexually active teens said they used a condom during their last sexual intercourse. This too remained statistically unchanged from the 2003 survey. Source: National Youth Risk Behavior Survey

2. Also taken from the HomeWord parent newsletter:

Most Americans Have Had Premarital Sex. Almost all Americans have premarital sex, says a report published in December, 2006 that analyzes federal data over time and suggests programs focusing on sexual abstinence until marriage may be unrealistic. The study, which used statistics from the 1982, 1988, 1995 and 2002 National Survey of Family Growth, asked about 40,000 people ages 15-44 about their sexual behavior and traced the trends in premarital sex back to the 1950s. Of those interviewed in 2002, 95% reported they had had premarital sex. Source: USA Today.

There is no question that we live in a sexually charged world. As a parent and a youth worker, I worry about my children and the children I minister to. We musn’t be afraid to speak up about sex and teach our children about why waiting until marriage is always the right choice. Does any one even doubt the influence of media and culture on the views of sex our young people have? Our culture is sex-saturated that making it through adolescence unscathed from all of the sexual temptation is a daunting task, one as youth ministers and parents we must be willing to partner with our young people to help them navigate through.


About Jason Retherford

The random musings of a youth minister.
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One Response to Talking to your children about sex

  1. As the father of two daughters myself I am praying that I have a GREAT relationship with them … not just so they will “postpone” sex but so they will have a great view of God too. But parenting is tough.

    Bobby Valentine

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